The modern teenager finds him or herself in a strange new world that no one could have predicted even a decade ago. The millennial teen is growing up in a world where the parent and role model has been largely replaced by the new [...]]]>

The modern teenager finds him or herself in a strange new world that no one could have predicted even a decade ago. The millennial teen is growing up in a world where the parent and role model has been largely replaced by the new phenomena of technology pre-occupation.  Between cell phones, i-Pads, i-Pods, games and unlimited internet access, the average modern teen spends around 8 hours per day (according to a recent Kaiser Family Foundation Study)  being bombarded by music, information, images, texts and entertainment. Often this is compounded because of a teen's facility to multi-task, so they are actually absorbing up to 11 or 12 hours worth of electronic stimulus daily!

Studies are beginning to emerge that link online exposure time to alarming rises in chronic teenage disorders. These include:

·         Hearing damage,

·         Obesity,

·         ADD & ADHD,

·         Chronic fatigue,

·          Insomnia

Other disturbing correlations include the following: students who spend more time on their electronic equipment score lower grades, tend to be more irritable, struggle to access higher order thinking skills and have limited social skills. My own observations in the high school classroom add to this: teens today tend to have a reduced tolerance to stress and struggle to focus for extended periods of time.

Unfortunately many teens live lifestyles which are so busy that they undervalue rest, introspection and recovery, three essential components for a healthy and successful lifestyle. Teenagers often under value the wisdom and hierarchy of adults and instead surround themselves with entertainment and endless stimulus from their electronic devices.

Parents, teachers and other professionals are struggling to manage this exponential change. The popular convention is to treat the symptoms of these teenage “diseases” by using  medication and therapy, rather than going to the source. It is rare to find people or groups who can guide teens to foster self reliant and real solutions. These solutions mean lifestyle changes which take time and discipline in a caring transaction between the teen and the role model adult.

Through my work in the classroom and in my teen life coaching I have introduced teenagers to meditation, integrated brain techniques and moral contemplations which have helped them manage stress, improve grades and in some cases transform their worldviews. Working at this level opens up possibilities for teens to manage complex and overwhelming situations they currently face. Find out more.

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Most importantly have [...]]]> How do you feel about your education? Do you feel met by every teacher you have? Do you find some teachers “have it” and others don’t? Have you ever stopped and wondered what are the differences between effective and dysfunctional teaching? 

Most importantly have you ever considered "How do you learn?"

After 15 years of High School Math teaching I thought I could recognize learning abilities in my students readily. Over the last 3 years I have discovered that the way I was judging and perceiving intelligence was incomplete and that I was not seeing major chunks of observable and measurable brilliance in my students.

The more I read and observed my students the more I discovered (and continue to discover) how much more there is to learn about learning. Not only that but everybody learns differently!

So what do I mean when I talk about learning about learning?

Take a moment and answer this question: “How do I learn best?” This question alone may unlock many blockages for you as to why you find some teachers easy to follow and others confusing or boring. What can you do about this as a student? How can you help transform your teachers (if they are willing) into a better teacher for you? How can you expand your learning "styles" to be able to learn more from every teacher and every class?

Firstly find out how you learn best. You have eyes, ears, mouth and a body. These are your major learning organs which determine which style of learning you prefer –

• visual (eyes)
• kinesthetic (body and emotions) 
• auditory (ears and mouth)

Discover how you use them to learn when you are excited, afraid, bored or angry. Which do you rely on the most? Which do you use least? Other ways to learn about how you learn can be found by asking the question "How important is it for you to learn by:"

·         Having music playing in the background while you work or study?

·         Connecting what you learn to the natural world?

·         Moving  your body while learning?

·         Taking short breaks during class?

·         Having fun or laughing in a lesson?

·         Having work presented to you in color, symbols or drawings?

·         Working alone, in pairs or in small groups during activities?

·         Rephrasing or restating something that is taught to you in your own words?

·         Needing the work to have meaning and significance to you?

Once you have asked yourself these questions (and more) start to notice which teachers include these qualities in their lessons and how you respond in thiose moments.

Next become more familiar with learning styles and how they work by approaching a professional or reading books and articles. I recommend you read “Quantum Learning: Unleashing the Genius in You” or my blogs (see below) I have written on my work in the classroom. You can also hire a Teen Coach to help you understand how you learn, what your needs are and how to have these needs met in your life.

Lastly determine a request you feel you want to make of your teacher to help them modify their teaching approach and include your needs into the way they present a lesson.   Find a respectful way to approach them and simply make your request in a non-demanding way. I suggest you practice this with a good friend, your coach, a parent or someone you trust first. Good luck!

Further reading:

Sink and Think (TM): Fostering Curiosity and Managing ADHD in the Classroom

The New Student

Organic Teaching

Bridging the Virtual Gap: The Challenge for 21st Century Teenagers

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 Are you challenged by modern day teens? OR are you a teen YOURSELF? In either case, you will probably recognize something of your experience in the following story:

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 Are you challenged by modern day teens? OR are you a teen YOURSELF? In either case, you will probably recognize something of your experience in the following story:

Sixteen year-old Leah and her mother are sitting at the dinner table. Each is reading her emails on hand-held devices. Every time an email arrives it announces itself by pings and pops that punctuate the silence. The blue light from the screen lights up the whites of their eyes giving them an eerie glow as they fervently read scraps of gossip from the latest sender. The mother looks up. Her eyes squint into a frown as she blurts a question in a commanding tone, “Leah can you do the dishes? It’s your turn and you have missed the last three times.” No reply. Leah’s head is fixated on her iphone, her fingers furiously texting. Her earphones complete her isolation as they block out all sound under eight-five decibels. She is perfectly unreachable. Almost. Only physical contact can break the spell of her impermeable shield from reality. She's in a virtual empire where she reigns supreme.  Her mother taps her on the shoulder to gain her attention. “Fuck, don’t molest me, you retard” Leah snaps at her mother. “Wait till I tell my therapist you hit me again!” Leah's mother’s mind races, fearing that her daughter will do something irrational.  Inside of ten seconds Leah places her iphone in front of her mother’s face, snapping a photo and then uploading it to Facebook with the words “My mother sucks! She hit me again.” The mother’s photo has been instantly sent to 1500 “friends.” Her simple request has suddenly evaporated into an emotional maelstrom made public. Perplexed, the mother stares helplessly at this strange creature, her daughter, and sighs.    

I am guessing that many of you who know or work with teenagers, or indeed are teenagers yourself, may recognize some of the familiar issues in this scenario. In my fifteen years working with teens as a High School Teacher and Life Coach I often encounter over one hundred students a day, many in various situations like Leah's. I have witnessed social changes that have required me to consider deeply the challenges teens face and where they are at.

Several key issues I've identified in trying to help teens include: a difficulty to communicate their needs non-violently; over-dependence on virtual relationships; poor health; and a confused morality which includes their inability to take responsibility. Teenagers today have been armed with a variety of reasons for their issues, from ADHD to obesity to anger management issues. These are often used as excuses for not having to take responsibility for their behaviors and actions. Not only that, but doctors, behaviorists and various professional studies point to quick fixes such as medication as convenient solutions over more painstaking, slow but real and effective routes to deal with complex social issues. Common sense is often belittled or even lost altogether.

As a Life Coach and a cutting-edge High School educator my mission is to empower and help teenagers tap their creative spirit to become healthy and robust leaders and pioneers of the twenty-first century. To do this I am bridging a gap between two worlds. The first world is the virtual one where teens (and now parents and teachers) are absorbed into electronic social connections and entertainment, often at the expense of deeper relationships with others. The second world is real where communication and relationship come first, and the consequences a teen’s actions have on themselves and those around them become apparent.

The results are powerful. I encourage teens to:

• Wake up
• Embrace responsibility
•  Tap into the intrinsic qualities of their potentials for leadership and self reliance
• Replace the words "Whatever!" with "What more can I do?"

 The “cool” virtual heroes they once admired begin to look superficial and ridiculous, whereas their real-life mentors suddenly become human, wise and caring.

Reclaiming the real is the first step to a saner future, don't you think? 

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